Your hair is a statement of style, an affirmation of beauty, and an expression of self-love. – Adémola Mandella
Do you wear your hair natural? Is it less than 5 inches long? Does it shrink at the slightest presence of precipitation and humidity? Is it kinky, coily and very tightly curled? Do you love your TWA (Teeny Weeny Afro)? Do your friends, family, colleagues and basically everyone around you make comments about your hair? Comments that make you face-palm and make emoji side eyes?
Then this is the post for you.
Guys, ever since I cut my hair, I keep getting random comments, questions and compliments on it. Most of the time though, it’s usually annoying or irritating comments that make you question people’s
ignorance knowledge on natural hair. I decided to come up with a list of some of the most common questions and comments I get concerning my hair because I’m sure some, if not all of you can relate.
So here goes….
1. “Your hair is so short!”
Okay, I’m not sure if that’s another way to mean that I look bad, ugly, maybe nice? I’m not sure. Guys, intonation of such statements can alter the meaning of your words. Careful. I mean, I know my hair is short. No need to remind me.
2. “You look… *searches for most appropriate word and ends up saying* ….nice.”
If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all.
3. “Why did you cut your hair? You looked prettier in longer hair.”
Because societal standards of beauty mean that women with longer hair are more beautiful?
4. “Why don’t you texturise it?”
This basically means your short nappy hair would definitely look better if it were less nappy and had a looser curl. No thanks.
5. “Have you thought about dyeing your hair?”
I wonder why people always assume that having short dyed hair is a sort of saving grace of TWA sisters. Please.
6. “Can I touch it?”
7. “Is that a new hairstyle?”
Short natural hair is not a style, it’s the way I choose to wear my hair: short AND natural.
8. “Is unkempt hair the new thing?”
9. “So can you comb it?” “From root to tip?”
You don’t need to comb your hair everyday, people.
10. “You’re lucky you have a good head for short, natural hair.”
Ummm, thanks? No idea how to react.
11. “How do you get it to do that?”
Oh, you mean my hair that defies gravity? That’s just the way it grows out of my scalp.
12. “Will you wear your hair natural forever?”
Errr, yes. No lye. (See what I did there? Haha. Nothing against women with relaxed hair though.)
13. “Your hair looks like the hard type. But [insert name of friend] has soft hair.”
Okay, comparing my hair to someone else will not automatically make my curl pattern looser. If my hair is tightly coiled, it’s tightly coiled. Period.
14. “You look like a crazy person.”
Short, natural, kinky, coily, curly hair defies gravity and likes to stick together in tufts. I’m not sure how that equates to me looking crazy?
15. You go to work like that?
Yes I do, dear, yes I do.
I’m sure there’s so many things I’ve left out in this list but I do hope you can all relate! What have you been told that really annoys you? And no, I’m not bashing anyone, just letting that off my chest. Haha. Natural hair is quite the talking point. Comment below.
Have a great rest of the week!